According to Statistics Brain only 8% of those that make New Years Resolutions are successful at them.
Wow. Why bother?
Why did 92% of them succeed when only 8% of us normal-new-years-resolutions-type-folks succeeded?
They had help. The Jenny Craig weight loss programs set you up with a personal coach to help you reach your goals.
I’m a Certified Professional Executive Coach and it’s the same thing with my clients. They get to success faster because someone “coaches” them along the way. What about those 8% of normal peeps that succeeded? Well, 10% of all people are Dominant type personalities. They are the self-starters and self-finishers—the entrepreneurs. My professional opinion is that they were the ones who succeeded without any help. It’s built-into their personality.
So how do you get to your success plan? Be intentional—get a coach. These articles are positive accountability coaching techniques to help you understand personal growth and leadership so you can lead yourself and grow into the success you want to be. You see, the hardest person to lead is yourself.
The first step is attitude. You need to be intentional about everything you do. Your personal schedule. The time you get up. How you spend your money. How much time you spend with your time wasters—playing video games, youtube, TV, friends, etc. Those things aren’t evil—but you do need to control what it is you’re doing when, or you won’t get to your goals—which we will talk about later—setting goals.
It was businessman and philanthropist W. Clement Stone who said, “Before you get out of bed every morning, say ‘do it now’ fifty times. At the end of the day before you go to sleep, the last thing you should do is say ‘do it now’ fifty times.”
Skeptical? Well, it really did help. It helped me—and leadership expert John C. Maxwell. And thousands of others who need that extra push—a little coaching.
Here’s the bottom line for intentionality: if I do a bunch of other things that don’t help me reach my goal, I won’t reach it—at least not in a reasonable amount of time. So determine now to be intentional and find some accountability to help you remain intentional.
Have you written out your goals for 2016? If they’re not written out (paper or on computer) you will fall very short—you may not even get started. It also helps others see the written goals and understand your vision. This way, others can agree with it and jump in to help. You need the accountability of having the goals where you can see them every day so you can assess—or measure—every day if you are on target and then adjust accordingly. Your time is limited—don’t let someone else rule your day—you rule it. You decide what needs to be done when. The only way to do that is to be intentional.
You need to map out how to accomplish all the things you need to do. Without intentionality, you’ll just do what you want instead of what you should—and if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten!
How to Be Intentional
- Decide you are going to be intentional now. If you wait, you won’t do it.
- Ask someone to remind you every other day by text, email, etc., to be intentional. Preferably someone you know who is successful.
- When you don’t feel like doing something you should, stop. Remind yourself that not doing this thing you don’t want to do, is stopping you from achieving your goal, and then go do it.
- Ask the big questions—Instead of asking “How long will this take,” ask “how far can I go.” Ask tough questions of yourself and answer them. Often.
- Do it now. Don’t procrastinate any longer. Get off your butt and do it!
- Face your fears. George Addair said, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” Fear is the biggest thing that stops people. There are five major fears that keep people from being successful: Fear of Failure, Fear of Trading Security for the Unknown, Fear of Being Overextended Financially, Fear of What Others Will Say or Think, and Fear that Success Will Alienate Peers. If you’re afraid that’s fine—Do it afraid!
- Change from accidental to intentional growth. People that live with accidental growth appear as victims. You want to be intentional instead.
Here is a chart of the differences between Accidental and Intentional growth from John Maxwell:
ACCIDENTAL GROWTH INTENTIONAL GROWTH
Plans to Start Tomorrow Insists on Starting Today
Waits for Growth to Come Takes Complete Responsibility to Grow
Learns Only from Mistakes Often Learns Before Mistakes
Depends on Good Luck Relies on Hard Work
Quits Early and Often Perseveres Long and Hard
Falls into Bad Habits Fights for Good Habits
Talks Big Follows Through
Plays It Safe Takes Risks
Thinks Like a Victim Thinks Like a Learner
Relies on Talent* Relies on Character
Stops Learning after Graduation Never Stops Learning
If you find yourself in the left column in any of these, you need to start working more toward intentionality. Get better every day. Someone else is. Maybe your competition?
Finally, set up a time daily, weekly and monthly to reflect on your day, week, etc. You may say you don’t have time for that—actually, you don’t have time not to. You can look at what helped you toward success and what kept you from success each day and do more of the helpful stuff and less of the hurtful stuff, tomorrow. It just makes sense. You cannot change without knowing what to change!
Take the day by storm—don’t let it take you!